Worries About WorryHypnotherapy and Hypnobalancing™ in Berlin
Worries About Worry
When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.
Especially people with a generalized anxiety disorder worry about worry. They get into a conflictual relationship with their own thoughts. People with a generalized anxiety disorder want to make very sure that their bad thoughts will never become reality. They want to eliminate all doubt.
But since it’s impossible to prove, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that something could never happen, this opens the door to worry without end. So they spend a lot of time trying to adjust their thoughts. They don’t want to have any negative thoughts, and if they have any, they want to be able to prove to themselves that they can’t possibly happen. They spend so much time and effort trying to get their thoughts cleaned up and arranged the way they want, that they spend less of their time and energy out in the real world. When we worry, the use of energy is consistently higher than normal in the brain (orbital cortex). It is working overtime and heating up.
Constant worrying takes a heavy toll. It keeps us up at night and makes us tense and edgy during the day. The problem with thought stopping and distraction is, in general, that if you tell yourself not to think about your worries, you’ll probably realize even more of them.
Telling yourself to stop worrying doesn’t work or at least not for long. You can distract yourself or suppress anxious thoughts for a moment, but you can’t banish them for good. In fact, trying to do so often makes them stronger and more persistent. The more you try to suppress a thought, the more it tends to return. While objects won’t return when you dispose of them, thoughts will.